I’m Mirella. I am an adult, transracial adoptee. I am also a transnational adoptee, born and raised in Bulgaria until the age of 5, when I was adopted and raised by an American family living in Seattle, Washington. I grew up in a White family, and a White community, and for most of my life called myself White. I am ethnically Bulgarian and Iraqi. I identify as a Person of Color. I am twice adopted and a second-generation adoptee. And I am not the only one.
It’s complicated, but not unique in its complexity.
Me, and many others like me, face feelings of difference as they navigate a world where they do not fit neatly into categories of race, ethnicity, or even national origin. Many others, like me, face feelings of incongruity as they negotiate identities that may, or may not, fit neatly into the families they belong to – identities that are uniquely theirs and no one else’s.
This blog is a collection of my own thoughts and feelings around my own transracial, transnational adoption journey. A shoutout to adoptees or fosters everywhere – young and old – to say you are not alone, and what I can only hope will be a resource for the families, friends, and communities that support us.
Some of what I post will be anecdotal. Most of what I post will be anecdotal. From time to time though, I might also post my own or others’ research and writing from school and other ventures, as well as links to articles and resources that I think might be useful for anyone wanting to know more.
Does it matter? Doesn’t it?
Whether you’re an adoptee, a foster, or a friend, relative, or professional supporting one of the latter, I hope you’ll join me and be part of the conversation.
I look forward to seeing where this takes us.