Category Archives: social locations

race matters

Race matters. Even though there are times when I’d like to think that my transracially adopted identity doesn’t shape who I am – in my family and in the world – my race in relation to those around me influences … Continue reading

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Coming Home to Self – The Adopted Child Grows Up – Part II

I recently wrote a quick post about “Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up” – a book I began reading several months ago that examines the effect of early separation on the development of adoptee sense of self, and … Continue reading

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awareness in healing

A wise woman I know reminds me often that she cannot fix what she doesn’t know is broken. My personal philosophy on healing follows a similar line of logic. Healing begins with awareness. Shedding light on the truth of any … Continue reading

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complexity and the beauty of spaces in between

Complexity breeds despair, or so I’ve heard. But in my eyes, complexity is special. It’s hard earned. It’s what makes us three-dimensional. And while I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, what makes an adoptee identity complex is very special to … Continue reading

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the trouble with perception

“At any given time there exist, at minimum, as many truths as there are people in the room,” my instructor told us as she began her lecture on fair fighting. Her words resonated deeply; reverberating in much in the same … Continue reading

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under pressure – reconnecting with birth relatives

I met my oldest biological cousin in person, for the first time, several weeks ago. He’s a doctor and for the last few months has been a visiting resident at one of the most prestigious medical institutes in the United … Continue reading

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the politics of adoption

The politics of adoption are inevitable. Particularly across race and nationality. An individual decides they want to adopt across racial lines or the borders of the country where they live, and it says something: that a parent thinks they can … Continue reading

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